One of my favorite things to do is hear about my klw client’s successes. Why? Because their success is my success. Being exactly where they’ve been, I know how incredible it feels to find food freedom and to finally live life with food being an afterthought.
loving yourself and your body
Among millions of wins in their book, those two are my serious favorite.
So, meet Kate.* I interviewed her after the program to see exactly where she was, where she is now, and so you can see what happens when you decide to take the plunge.
Enjoy the interview!
Before we started working together, what was your relationship with food like?
Oh god, my relationship with food has been hystorically awful. I have dealt with yo-yo dieting, binge eating, emotional eating, self depricating thoughts for easily the last 18-20 years of my life.
What was your body image like?
Growing up I was always about six inches taller than everyone my age. I developed really early and always felt as though I was ‘larger’ than everyone else. Girls were always shorter or tinier than me. In sports, it was beneficial because I was in positions where my size was important, but near the end of high school and after – that’s when I really spiraled downhill. I always felt like I was fighting an uphill battle with my body and body image. I constantly looked at myself everyday and hated that I was bigger and less fit than everyone else.
Thank you so much for sharing that. I was literally the exact same. I’ll never forget at a soccer game the opposing coach screamed out ‘somebody catch the big girl!’ So now, what was your confidence and self esteem like?
It was low. Like… lower than low. I would look at my body in the mirror and cry… pretty much every single day for years. I would convince myself I wasn’t worth of love, respect, and happiness because who could possibly love me when I look like this.
How did you find me, and what resonated with you with what I was saying!
Well i mean I knew you before all of this! And to give everyone a bit of a background, we know each other through our old gym. We would do weight loss challenges, quick fixes, and whole 30’s to try to ‘fix’ ourselves together. Then, I saw you not only looking healthier and leaner, but seriously happier. You had a confidence you never had before and I wanted that too.
What do you think the biggest eye opener was when we started working together?
I think my biggest eye opener was realizing how truly mean and awful my mind was to myself. I realized that a healthy relationship with food begins and ends with a healthy relationship with my head. Every time I tried to lose weight, I failed. I failed because I was never addressing the real issue.
Since working with me, how have you changed?
I have improved my mindset drastically. I realize that I spend most of my days without even one negative thought about myself. This was something I NEVER thought possible because I did it for years and years, with no idea how to stop.
How, if anything, you’ve learned with Kelly has carried over to other areas of your life?
I’ve started focusing on healing my mental relationship with not only food, but carried her techniques and tips over into every aspect of my life. It’s insane. Before I eat something that may not be the best choice for my body I ask myself- how will this make me feel? Is it worth it to eat it even if I know I may not feel my best?
I also use this technique with other facets of life. If I’m feeling lazy and don’t want to do an intense workout…I ask myself what DO I want to do? What physical moment WILL make me feel my best not only physically, but mentally. So for example,if I don’t feel like doing an intense Tabata ride on the peloton… I may go for a walk instead. Me knowing that I can just move my body and relieve stress and feel good means everything to me. I know that aspect is so much more important than a killer workout that I have to force myself to do.
Any advice for other women working with me?
Yes! Stay committed. Don’t be afraid. Journal, even if you think it’s silly at first. Take the time to focus on developing affirmations that work for you. Never be afraid to ask for extra support when you have hard days.
And yes, there are definitely hard days. Just like when you had hard days in the past, now you aren’t turning to food, so they really hit you hard. Journal journal journal!
*names have been changed
How do you feel reading this? Kate’s story really resonates with me because I was the exact same way, and I know many of you are. Sadly, the diet industry WANTS us to feel this way.
If you are feeling this way and want help, I would love to hear more of your story. Contact me here and let’s talk!