Okay, if you are here, you know why you self sabotage. Your subconscious brain runs on autopilot 95% of the time through your patterns, habits, beliefs and behaviors. If you are trying to create new habits, let’s say, in the hopes of weight loss, you can end up in a deep hole of self sabotage. Why? Because your subconscious brain job is to keep you safe; and habits you try to take on make your brain sense danger.
When your brain senses danger, you go back to old habits.
You may not even realize that you’re doing it. You just know you really really reaaaaally can’t stick to something, no matter how hard you try.
I’m here to tell you it’s not your fault, and that you can get out of these behaviors.
Small changes is how you stop self sabotage in its tracks.
When you take on too much too soon, that is how you fall back into the exact patterns you are trying to change.
You need to take larger habits, the end goal, and break it down into really, really, really small steps so you don’t freak your brain out. When you do this, you brain doesn’t sense danger, and keeps thinking it is safe even though you are slowly changing for the better.
So, lets break this down in an example you most likely have tried: going to the gym more.
If you’ve ever tried to start going to the gym more, you know the exact pattern that happens one too many times. You start feeling super motivated, you go to the gym at the crazy hour of 5AM every morning before work, and all of a sudden, you just can’t fathom it anymore.
You may successful go for three days, or maybe even a week. Then? You can’t bring yourself to go once, and your membership is now something that is just taken out of your credit card without you stepping foot in the doors.
Here are steps you can take to stop self sabotage with new habits:
- Don’t make a goal of going to the gym every single day. Besides the fact it’s way too lofty of a goal, your body needs rest and recovery.
- Try for two times a week, if that. Go at an hour that is conceivable for you. It doesn’t matter what time you go, and you don’t need to listen to the experts that say ‘you burn more calories working out first thing in the morning.’ We don’t care about calorie burn here.
- When you are there, do exercises you are familiar and comfortable with. Once you feel more at ease going, then you can add in different exercises that you want to learn.
- Notice the reasons why you enjoy going to the gym, that have absolutely nothing to do with weight loss. Better mood? More energy? Sleeping better? Take note of all the positives.
Slow and steady is key. While it may not feel like you are doing a ton, know that this is how habits are created and how they last. If you found this helpful, read more of my story here!